Choosing the men to be in your wedding may be one of the hardest decisions you will have to make. Your wedding party will consist of your family members and your closest friends. When deciding which role they will play, keep in mind that each job comes with its own responsibilities.
The Best Man
Your best man should be someone you can count on to make sure everything runs smoothly. Normally, your best man will be a brother or your best friend.
- Planning the bachelor party
- Getting fitted for his tuxedo rental
- Standing with you at the altar
- Serving as one of the witnesses
- Signing the marriage license
- Proposing the first toast at the reception
- Attending the rehearsal
- Helping you get ready the day of the wedding
- Presenting the bride's ring
- Giving the officiant his gift
- Returning your tuxedo the day after the wedding
- Making sure the men in your wedding party have been fitted for their tuxedos
- Making sure all tuxedos are returned on time
- Arranging for your transportation after the reception
- Picking up any out-of-town guests at the airport
- Packing your luggage in the car and filling it with gas
- Helping deposit cash wedding gifts in the bank
Your brothers, your fiance's brothers or any one of your close friends can serve as groomsmen. Each will be paired with a bridesmaid that your future bride has chosen.
- Co-hosting the bachelor party
- Attending the rehearsal dinner
- Renting their own tuxedos
You will want to have at least one usher for every 40 or 50 guests.
- Escorting guests to their seats - your guests on the right side of the chapel, the bride's guests on the left. Helping out-of-town guests find transportation from the wedding to the reception
- Offering a helping hand to the florist, photographer, musicians or anyone needing last minute assistance
You will want to choose a young man between the ages of 4 and 10 that you can count on to walk down the aisle without causing too much of a disturbance. A younger brother or child of a friend would be a good candidate. The ring bearer is responsible for carrying the ring pillow containing the wedding ring (not necessarily the real thing).